Updated: Feb 12, 2020
I have been recently thinking about how everyone wants better energy, better people, and just overall good vibes in their lives (nice rhyme, right?) We all seem to crave more positive and better energy to surround ourselves with. So, I have created this post to share with you the "3 Simple Tips" to do just that!
Let go of other's expectations and let go of pleasing people.
Simply, let yourself be YOU! I know this sounds so simple and obvious. However, it is extremely difficult to be confident in your own skin these days, especially when there are so many people pretending to be something they're not. We see social media posts about "perfect" looks, skin, hair, houses, products, and overall lifestyles. We, then, compare ourselves to the things we see and then start the negative self-talk, deprecating thoughts, vibes, and energy.
"Comparison is the death of joy." -- the truest quote I've ever heard from Rachel Hollis. This quote slapped me in the face when I first read it. Because you know what, I do it too! I am 100% guilty of comparing myself to others and becoming a bitter, negative Nancy. I know you have probably felt this way at some point too. That's why I wrote this post; because you need to hear this: YOU JUST NEED TO BE YOU! Do things YOU want to do. I dare you to spend a full day doing only things that you want to do. Be selfish. Get some you-time. Once you do that, I promise you, people will become automatically drawn to you. Once they see you thriving in your own skin, being your own authentic self, they will want to be a part of it! People feed off of good energy. People like when people are utterly and un-apologetically themselves.
Follow positive, uplifting, and motivating accounts on social media instead.
Change up the people you follow on your feeds and timelines. You don't have to follow anyone that doesn't serve you in some way. I'll say that again for the people in the back: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FOLLOW ANYONE THAT DOESN'T SERVE YOU IN SOME WAY. What I mean by this, is that you do not need to follow people on social media that you don't receive good thoughts and feelings from. Unlike in real-life situations, on social media, you are actually in full control of what you see (except those pesky sponsored ads that show up after you say "dog treats" out loud and then all of sudden you see it on your feed...just me?)
Ok, seriously though! You are allowed to unfollow toxic people or toxic accounts that bring you to compare your life to theirs. I personally like to follow motivational speakers, coaches, and mental health accounts that always post about healthy, happy, and real things that I can gain good vibes from. The amount of hours we spend on our phones, indulged in other people's lives, is UNREAL. We might as well spend that time looking at things that make us feel good, don't you think?!
Go through your following list and ask yourself "Why am I following this person?" & "What is this account doing for me?" Go ahead and unfollow those accounts. You will, most likely, feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders. It is a weight that you might not even know is there.
Change what you tolerate. Change your tolerance level.
Let me start by asking you this: Do you think that successful people become successful and then they become happy? Maybe you think you have to have all the money in the world to be happy? Maybe you think you need a nice house, car, or body to be happy? I'll admit, I used to have this mindset too.
If you still do, I'm going to rock your world...ok?
It's actually the other way around! People that are happy become successful. People who are happy, attract happiness, which then leads to the manifestation of success. People are drawn to others that are happy and people that are confident, optimistic, and know what they want. They attract the good vibes. They are positive and confident in everything they pursue which then leads them to success because they CHOSE happiness. They put their happiness first and make their decisions based on what will benefit them and fuel their passion, AKA, their happiness).
Therefore, if you're doing what you love = you will be happy = lead to success. I hope this is making sense!
When you change your mind and decide that you will no longer tolerate what doesn't make you happy, you will become happier. Then, you will change your situation because you will want more for yourself. You will want everything to make you happy, and when it doesn't, you will have the confidence and motivation to let it go. Marie Kondo that sh**! Let it go if it doesn't bring you joy. If the man you're with, the car you drive, the job you have, or the friends you surround yourself with don't bring you joy, STOP TOLERATING THEM. Tell them, "thank you, next".
You are in charge of your life and your happiness. You cannot depend on other people to make you happy; Only you can do that. Depending on other people or things to make you happy will only cause dependence, disappointment, and short-lived joy. The first step in creating the happiness and good vibes you want for your life is to stop tolerating the things that don't bring you happiness in the first place. Clear your mind and clear your plate of the things, people, or environments that are killing your joy.
Once you change what you tolerate in your life, your mindset will shift and your life will start to change.
My friend, I hope these tips light a fire inside of you and start the process of attracting happiness in your life. We all deserve to be happy, but sometimes we all need a little trick or tip to get us there. This one is for you.
Until my next tip,